Our step-by-step guide to mess-free period sex
Here’s a question many people have when they consider using the Flex Disc™ during sex. Will a menstrual disc fit inside my body along with a penis, toy, or set of fingers?
Yes, yep, oh yeah! Menstrual discs also help reduce period cramps, so you will likely enjoy a healthy sex drive even while on your period.
To help you on your steamy journey at any time of the month, we’ve outlined some tips below on how to use Flex Disc during period sex.
P.S. Want to learn more about the benefits of period sex and how to get in the mood? Read our Ultimate Guide to Period Sex to discover why it’s so incredible.
How to have sex on your period using Flex Disc
1. Use an empty or recently emptied menstrual disc
Having penetrative sex on your period with a menstrual disc full of period blood isn’t risky, but it may not be super comfortable. Using a fresh or less-full Flex Disc (i.e. it’s only been in for a few hours and/or you’ve just emptied it out by bearing down while on the toilet) is a better move since that way, you won’t have to worry about menstrual blood leaks caused by pressure.
Wondering how to insert your menstrual disc securely? Here’s a quick tutorial and our best period sex tips:
2. Use it WITH birth control
While it might (sort of) resemble a diaphragm, Flex is not a contraceptive. Use it in conjunction with your normal birth control method—whether you’re on birth control pills, or even if your birth control method goes inside your vagina, like an IUD or contraceptive ring. And yes, it is possible to get pregnant from having sex during menstruation, although the likelihood is generally lower compared to other times in the menstrual cycle.
However, because sperm can live in the body for several days and ovulation timing varies, pregnancy can still occur if you have unprotected sex during your period.
Quick notes about things that can be worn with the Flex Disc:
Condoms:
Can be used with Flex Discs, but remember there’s always a small risk the condom may not function as intended due to friction. Avoid unprotected sex. To practice safe sex, use a barrier method of contraception, such as condoms or dental dams. These are the best ways to help protect you from sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or diseases (STDs).
IUDs:
Using a menstrual disc with an IUD is certainly possible, but if you have an IUD, we always recommend chatting with your OB/GYN or healthcare provider beforehand: They’ll have a better idea of how your IUD is placed and where your IUD strings hang in relation to your unique anatomy.
NuvaRing:
The Flex Disc is safe to wear in conjunction with NuvaRing. Just be sure to prioritize your birth control by inserting it first and then following up with the disc. We also recommend giving your disc a quick check upon removal to be sure you don’t accidentally remove your Nuvaring.
3. Get wet
To start things off on the sexiest note, we recommend doing some foreplay, tantalizing talk, or anything you like to get you excited and get some natural extra lubrication going —including receiving oral sex. You heard it here first: Flex Disc users experience no period smell and leakage is rare, especially if you insert a fresh disc before jumping into bed (or couch… or kitchen counter…). So, go ahead and enjoy what feels good, sans worries.
P.S. Only water-based lubricants are considered safe for use with the Flex Disc.
4. Get in position
The best sex positions when using a menstrual disc are missionary and doggy style. If you’re having sex in one of these positions, it’s very unlikely your partner will feel any discomfort related to, or even feel a menstrual disc. Other positions may also work, but these two tend to provide the most comfort and ease. Remember, communication with your partner is key—let them know what feels best for you, and listen to what feels good for them too.
5. Rearrange all you want
If you switch positions and your Flex Disc shifts, don’t fret. It rarely happens—but if it does, use a clean finger to tuck it back in behind the pubic bone. Sometimes, even a couple of Kegels are enough to get your disc back into place.
Flexpert Pro Tip: Try this thumb trick!
6. More ohs & oh yeahs
Some people experience stronger orgasms when wearing the Flex Disc because it gently rubs against the cervix during intercourse.
Another fun fact? When you orgasm, your body releases chemicals like oxytocin, dopamine and endorphins, these act as painkillers and help deal with menstrual cramps. Also, stronger orgasms might even make your period end sooner. Yes, we DO take thank you notes!
7. Throw in a vibrator
Period sex doesn’t have to be partnered sex. Nor does it have to be body parts-only.
Break out your nightstand stash and put your go-to vibrator or dildo to work—either externally or internally. In the market for some new toys? Check out our favorite vibrators of 2021 here.
8. Immediate removal can be tricky, but don’t panic
Removing the Flex Disc after sexual intercourse can be harder than putting it in for a few reasons: Your vagina gets longer and your cervix moves higher up in your body during arousal—plus, muscle contractions and vigorous movement when engaged in sexual activity (*ahem, penetration*) can shift your Flex Disc further back.
Remember: There is literally no way your Flex Disc can get lost in your body. You’ll ALWAYS be able to get it out, we promise! After sex, just wait about 30 minutes to an hour for your vagina to return to its normal state before you try to remove your disc.
Then, push or bear down with your pelvic floor muscles (as if you were trying to poop). Do this while you have one finger inserted, so you can hook your finger under the disc when you feel the rim move forward down your vaginal canal.
For even easier access, try removing your disc in the shower while in a squatting position. The warm water will keep your muscles relaxed and your cervix will be easier to reach. 😉
How does it feel to have sex when you are on your period?
Having sex during your period can feel different for everyone. Many report increased relaxation and heightened sensitivity due to hormonal changes. The use of a Flex Disc can enhance comfort, making the experience enjoyable while minimizing mess.
Having sex during your period is generally considered safe for most people. However, it’s important to note that there may be a slightly higher risk of transmitting or contracting infections, such as HIV or hepatitis, due to menstrual bleeding. Using protection and maintaining good hygiene can help minimize these risks. If you have concerns or specific health conditions, always check with your physician.
What should you talk to your partner about before trying sex during your period?
Approach your partner with honesty and openness when discussing sex during your period. Communication is the most important thing to ensure both partners are comfortable and on the same page.
Some important topics to cover include:
- Comfort levels and boundaries: Discuss how you both feel about period sex and any boundaries or preferences either of you may have.
- Protection: Talk about using protection to prevent any potential mess and reduce risk of infections during period sex.
- Hygiene: Address any concerns about cleanliness and hygiene before, during, and after sex during your period.
- Desires and Fantasies: Share any desires or fantasies related to period sex. This can help alleviate any awkwardness and lead to a more enjoyable experience for both partners.
- Emotional Impact: Discuss how engaging in sex during this time might affect your emotions. Some may feel more vulnerable or sensitive, so ensure that you’re both aware of each other’s feelings.
- Alternatives: If either partner feels uncomfortable with penetrative sex, consider discussing alternatives like oral sex or manual stimulation, ensuring intimacy remains without compromising comfort.
Key takeaways: Having sex during period using Flex Disc
Unlike a traditional menstrual cup, the Flex Disc offers a unique advantage for maintaining your sex life during menstruation by allowing for mess-free period sex. The disc sits in the vaginal fornix and won’t interfere with penetration, making it the only way to enjoy intimate moments without period-related concerns.
For optimal comfort, ensure you’re naturally lubricated through foreplay (your body’s natural lubricant works best), and remember that the disc can enhance pleasure whether you’re with a partner or exploring masturbation. This innovative approach to period management is truly a great way to revolutionize how you experience intimacy during your cycle, proving that menstruation doesn’t have to put your intimate life on pause.
This article is informational only and is not offered as medical advice, nor does it substitute for a consultation with your physician. If you have any gynecological/medical concerns or conditions, please consult your physician.
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